Anonymous asked: Every time I try and shave my bikini line it results in an incredibly itch! Do you have any tips or know where I can find some?
ugh I have this same problem and it totally sucks. There isn’t much you can do about it— the itching is all that coarse hair growing back in a sensitive area, and ingrown hairs threatening to form. The only thing I’ve heard is that if you shave going with the grain of the hair instead of against it’s slightly less itchy. But that’s all the help I’ve got ): sorry.
Anonymous asked: How do you get a close shave down there? Everyone recommends not going against the growth of hair, to prevent razor burn, but my problem with this is that it leaves stubble. :/
ugh I have this same problem, and I just kind of choose to live with stubble. I don’t have sex in the immediate, physical presence of a partner often enough for it to be a problem. I suppose you could try waxing, but I’ve never tried it myself.
Sorry!
Anonymous asked: Do you think it's possible to have a healthy relationship when one person is much more interested in experimenting than the other? In this case, I'm the one more wild, but I hold myself in check for my partner's sake. In your opinion, would a healthy relationship be possible, if you love the person enough?
Sexual needs don’t necessarily make or break a relationship, but in some instances, they play a pretty important role. It’s important not to neglect yourself, but to also be aware of the needs and limits of your partner. Relationships require a certain amount of compromise, and plenty of conversation. Talk to your partner, see what their limits are. Don’t be afraid to express you own wants and needs, and be prepared to respect theirs too.
Anonymous asked: Hi, um I don't really have anyone else to ask this and I'm slightly embarrassed (hence hiding behind anon) but anyway.
During sex, after maybe 8 minutes or so I start to get really sore to the point where I have to ask my partner to stop. Do you know what could be causing me to be so sore that quickly?
Most often, I find that if I’m sore during sex— particularly sex involving some kind of penetration— it’s because I’m not wet enough. Lube is your friend! Make a mess! Use as much as you like, where ever you like. Wetter is better!
Anonymous asked: I was just wondering if you had any tips on mixing up (female) masturbation so it doesn't get old. My sex drive is very high and sex with another person is pretty much a non-option so I often masturbate at least once daily, but doing it daily the same way every time (penetration with a device and simultaneous vibration on the clitoris) can get boring. I tried using ice once on suggestion and it didn't do anything for me. I can't buy anything new to use due to a combination of low funds and annoying laws where I'm from. (I can have sex but not buy sex toys...?)
So... any tips?
This is a problem I myself face regularly. What I’ve done in the past is things like switching positions (try laying on your stomach, or kneeling), and watching a lot of porn. Explore your sexual pallet, find what turns you on. Try teasing yourself, enjoy your body. Masturbation shouldn’t just be about pounding out another orgasm, it should be about enjoying your body and making yourself feel good.
Anonymous asked: Do you watch porn at all? Are the any sites that you recommend? I don't want to be creepy. I'm just new to all of this. So yeah.
There are lots of free porn sites available!
- xtube.com
- pornhub.com
- tubegalore.com
- youporn.com
Anonymous asked: when I masturbate, I can never fully make myself orgasm? Why?
Try some different techniques! Check out this post for tips, most of them are only applicable to people with vaginas, but some can be useful for everyone!
Anonymous asked: I'm a straight female, but I like masturbating to lesbian porn. Is this normal? I think it might be because 1) I'm not a fellatio fan and 2) It's nice to see the woman getting some caring attention.
Anything that makes you feel good is perfectly normal. There is no “wrong” way to look at porn, and no “wrong” way to masturbate.
What you enjoy watching in pornography doesn’t necessarily reflect your sexual desires. I, my self, what a lot of porn involving only cisgendered men, which I’m not typically attracted to in real life.
Whatever gets you going is a good thing!
Anonymous asked: I am a girl who has a very hard time masturbating. I can start it, and I enjoy it, but I have yet to be able to bring myself to climax. Could you give some pointers on things to try with just your own hands to reach orgasm? I have no money for any toys.
I am answering this question under the assumption that the askee is someone with a vagina.
When trying to reach a climax, either alone, or with a friend (or friends), it’s important to be patient with yourself. Sex should be about feeling good, enjoying your body and the sensations it’s capable of.
Toys aren’t mandatory for orgasm, so don’t feel like you won’t be able to achieve one without them. I usually find clitoral stimulation, with just my fingers and a bit a lube, more then helpful. But if you need something a little more, there are a couple things you can try!:
- Different positions: Most people masturbate while lying on their backs. Try laying on your stomach, so you can rub against your hand, rather than push up into it. Try bending over on your knees, and reaching behind yourself. Penetration from a different angle can make a world of difference.
- Porn is your friend!: Sometimes, watching or reading something erotic can really heighten your senses while touching yourself.
- Homemade sex toys: Toys can be expensive. But there are safe, fun alternatives available. Penetration can be used with just about anything— vegetables, hair brush handles, etc— as long as it’s clean! To ensure what you’re using inside your body is as clean as possible, put a condom on it. This will protect you unwanted bacteria, and keep whatever item you’re using clean! Or, if penetration isn’t you think, use a blanket! Sit, or lay, with the blanket tucked under your bum (bringing it up between your thighs) and pull it taut, rub your clit against it for that extra bit of friction!
